With the changing of seasons and the return of Eastern Standard Time comes another reason to look back and reflect. November is the anniversary of a whole host of life changing events: getting back to the gym, my first race and my new job. At this point in the year, so much has changed it is pretty much a blur: new job responsibilities, two new grandbabies, new PR’s, new personal trainer, new gym, new training plans, new philosophy, new adjustments to be made.
Apparently my brain can only handle so much new stuff at a time, especially when not everything is new and the old comfort zone is there right around the corner. After a pretty rigorous week, I began to feel myself slipping back toward my old comfort zone, questioning all the newness.
Thoughts that begin with:
- What if..?
- If only…
- How do I know?
- Maybe I’ll just…
“IT’S NOT SUPPOSED TO BE EASY.”
When the going gets tough the tough are supposed to get going. With two months left to the year, I thought I was focused and self disciplined enough to keep the negative self thoughts away. I thought I was over it.
RETREAT OR PROGRESS
In order to move forward with success, trust in the plan is paramount. When doubt creeps in and faith waivers, it’s essential to stay the course, even when you want to retreat. Apparently I was burned more than I realized when I put my faith and trust in a trainer and a program that did not honor my committment, and I learned my lesson the hard way. I am still learning.
Progress is never linear.
When a stressor or transition in life occurs, it is normal for us to experience this sort of regression—a fallback to old patterns, behaviors and ways of thinking. Part of psycho-spiritual development is learning how to recognize those “loops” in life and implement strategies to recover and get back on course. These include practicing self-compassion, self-care, accessing support, reflecting and learning from the setback, thinking positively and taking action to move forward. The goal is to have the regressions be fewer, less frequent and less intense.- Joyce Marter, LPCP
So there you have it, transition+stress+life= regression. I am definitely seeing a pattern here, and I know that with a little support I can stay the course and get out of my own way.